The Law of the Seed

Take a look at an apple tree.There might be five hundred apples on
the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!We
might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more
apple trees?" Nature has something to teach us here. It's telling
us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So if you
really want to make something happen, you had better try more than
once."

This might mean:
You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.
You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.
You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum
cleaner,one insurance policy, or a business idea.
And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special
friend.

When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so
disappointed.We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with
things that happen to us.Laws of nature are not things to take
personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.

IN A NUTSHELL

Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.When
Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must NOT DO
so as to avoid misery in your life: You must not decide how you think
the world SHOULD be.You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD
behave. Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry!
That's what miserable people do! On the other hand, let's say you
expect that: Friends SHOULD return favours.People SHOULD appreciate
you. Planes SHOULD arrive on time.Everyone SHOULD be honest.Your
husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday. These
expectations may sound reasonable. But often,these                
things won't happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed.
There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences!
For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself: "I WOULD
PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!" This is really a change
in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and it gives                  
you more peace of mind ...You prefer that people are polite ... but
when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day. You prefer sunshine ...
but if it rains, it is ok too! To become happier, we either need to
a) Change the world, or b) Change our thinking. It is easier to
change our Thinking!

IN A NUTSHELL
It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your
attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It's not what
happens to you that determine your happiness. It's how you think
about what happens to you!